When she came in for her first appointment, she said she wanted to wear a bra from Victoria’s Secret. This morning she emailed and said it was hanging in her bedroom. She bought it.  It fits.  And now she wants the constant reminder, ” I am now a woman who can buy and wear a bra from Victoria’s Secret”.

Sometimes, the goal is to walk in the heat of the summer without chafing your legs. After my first pregnancy, my goal was to walk up the steps without my legs touching my belly.

Maybe you want to feel at ease in group of people or during intimacy. Maybe you want to stop being afraid of what is next. Whatever it is you want to feel differently about: you also most certainly want it to happen instantly. And yet, our most delicious victories come with a little more effort.

I have noticed there is an alchemy to changing your mind. I am more relaxed about the how, and the more at ease I am, the better practitioner I become. The first step to changing your mind is for you to be honest about how you want to feel differently.

The second step is to neutralize the negative emotions.  This second step can take a month, a few minutes, or a few years. It is the most important step and it is actually a series of steps. It is like playing a game.

You progress and then something else comes up and you get past the something else, until you get closer to the red bra, or whatever it is you seek.

What is missing for so many of us, is the acknowledgment that we are emotional beings. We love logic and the “just do it” mentality. We beat ourselves up for procrastinating, not being all we can be, and so on and so on. Relying on logic without acknowledging and clearing our emotions keeps us stuck.

We carry around emotional patterns and keep acting the same screen play until we change our emotional being.

Trying to change without clearing emotions  is like planting lettuce seeds over grass. It is like trying to grow blueberries in the wrong kind of soil. It is like trying to make good pesto from bitter- old basil. It is like driving without enough air in your tires.

Once you get the soil right. Once you are open to letting go of old emotional patterns, your experience changes.

Your mind takes a positive affirmation because it can.

The blueberries are sweeter and more prolific.  Picking lettuce is easy;  you can enjoy the best pesto, and your car rolls efficiently.

I hope you can join me in Changing Your Mind.

A new approach

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