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EFT and Hypnosis for Releasing Trauma

Let me give you some examples, and you can come up with your own reasons to call me.

A client came back in, because after successfully losing bothersome middle-age weight, she was again struggling to stay out of the cookie jar.  With a little probing, I discovered that her young adult-child had been in a serious car accident. Delving into the cookies often happened when he was out.

We flattened the traumatic memory from the accident, and her fear of what could happen when he wasn’t home. Her inner cookie monster disappeared.

Another woman came in because she was afraid of elevators and flying. She could force herself to do both, but not without extreme anxiety.

I discovered that once upon a time she received a phone call that changed everything about her life, and THEN she boarded a plane for a two hour flight. We flattened (in one session) every emotional aspect of this memory. She was pleasantly surprised that she was immediately able to ride in an elevator, and fly, without fear.

A young man came in looking for relief from anxiety headaches. All medical reasons had been ruled out. As a small child he and his brother and mother escaped their country. We spent a whole session on a train trip he had little conscious memory of, and his headaches immediately decreased.

Last year I got a call from a young woman who was driving her distraught roommate, who had just found out her boyfriend had committed suicide, home to be with her family. I did not know the girl and I did not know any of the circumstances.

In crises we are in an altered state and words take on increased meaning. I talked her through some EFT tapping points while saying these words, “Even though something horribly confusing has just happened, I will recover and feel better than I do right now very soon.” Over the phone I heard deep sighs (always a good sign in this kind of work!).

The woman driving called me later to say that the difference between her roommate before and after the call was remarkable.

We are taught to suck it up, and just get over it. That can be useful, but our bodies, our minds, our cells, do remember, and sucking it up can suck!

I love to help you get to the bottom of it!  Be well. Take care of yourself!

Thank you to www.freeartisticphotos.com for the photo

Sorry I could not resist that headline.

Did you happen to see the dreamy Australian Olympian, Steve Hooker, win the Gold Medal in pole vaulting?I didn't either. Below is a link for you to check out some incredible photographs of pole vaulting.This is not a sissy sport.

Apparently this Seth was throwing tantrums a few years back because he could not make himself do what he wanted to do, which was jump. He had been injured and was afraid. Who can't relate to that?

Hooker told the Australian daily, “ I was in a miserable bad mood. Your whole life, it really brings it down when it’s really what you want to do and you can’t do it just because it’s not clicking in your brain. A lot of people’s careers end with this sort of thing but I just really worked hard. I tried a million different things to try and get around it.”

What finally did it……. hypnosis. And as I read the various interviews, I was fascinated but how he repeatedly describes relaxing and being in the moment.

He says,   “One of the big changes I have made, is that I don’t think about consequences of missing or clearing. I didn’t think about the interviews I would have to do if I missed and came fifth in the Olympics, none of that stuff.”

Of his big night he says, “I was pushing too hard on the runway and I just  really needed to let it go,” he says. “My whole focus at the moment is  about relaxing. I jump much better when I relax. But I wasn’t that  relaxed at the start of the competition.”

Going from throwing tantrums to relaxing into the moment is clearly changing your mind.  We can thank Steve Hooker for giving us a great example of how it can be done.

I have successfully worked with many athletes.

My first experience  was when Alex, a dear friend of ours, asked me to help her get over her fear of high jumping.  She and my daughter braved the track field their Freshman year, and while my daughter took to the High Jump immediately, Alex was afraid, but did not want to be left behind. I worked with her for about twenty minutes.

And to her credit, not only was she jumping the next day, she went on to set the school record in High Jump as a Freshman.  This got me into a bit of trouble with my daughter, but all was forgiven when she went on to Place at state (yes, she had a little hypnotic help).

Most kids access their imagination quickly and can often make changes very quickly.

For instance,this past week I worked with an adorable young girl who was afraid to fall asleep.  EFT is a fun effective way to help kids get over fears and together we sang, "I am going to wipe (her particular scary image) right out of my head…. one.. two…… three… four.. five..and then with the flair of a girl who knew all about Hermine in Harry Potter she said, "Disappear".  Pure magic.

I can not personally speak for her method because I am asleep before I can think about it. However, when I do the little routine:sing "I am going to wipe (chosen message) out of head. One..two..three..four…five…Disappear.  My mood improves immeasurably.

And on that note, you have a fine day.

For the IAAF story on Steve Hooker Pole Vaulting and pictures:

Quote: To surrender is the most noble thing you can do. It is not an act of defeat, but rather an openness to the unknown. T.O.

Somehow US Magazine showed up in our mailbox this summer.  If you are not familiar with US, think of Parade magazine and go down ten notches.

At first I was appalled. Each week they feature famous women caught wearing the same dress and then they are judged on who looks best. This is the magazine to read if you want to know everything about nothing. And we all read it!

It was every bit as bonding as The Little Engine That Could.

I want to capture the moment at the table as the young ones were doing battle with the voter's pamphlet. I announce that Brooke Shield's husband was instrumental in the Paris Hilton FunnyorDie retort to John McCain's commercial. She memorized her lines and they only had to do four takes.

"How do you know that, MOM?"

"US!"

Now picture the college girls watching Sex and the City on DVD.  The college boyfriend comes into the room a little too quickly and asks, "Is this the one where Sarah Jessica Parker wears gladiator sandals?"

"How do you know that, JOOORDAN?"

"US!" (addressed to A.K.A Lisa Crunick)

Now it is time for Crime and Punishment. Actually Boomsday was my favorite read this summer. A young woman's anger blogs her generation into outrage over how much the Baby Boomers are costing them in taxes. She gets hooked up with a want-to-be-president, whose platform becomes giving boomers incentives for euthanization to balance the budget.

Watch for this to become a movie. I laughed so hard, my "kids" gave me the eye on the ferry. Oh, what fun it is to be the one acting out.

And while we are on favorites, my favorite hike of the summer was a ten miler in Level 1 wilderness with family members, on the occasion of a fiftieth wedding anniversary.

 One of my favorite moments was hearing the ten-year-old boy cousins call my eighteen-year-old "old!"

I hope your summer has a favorite book, kiss, and lots of laughter.

And while I do not want to be known for this kind of information, if you are inclined to have some chocolate ice cream, I am suggesting you go to Full Tilt in White Center, and have a scoop of Mexican chocolate in a biodegradable bowl.

They make their own ice cream every Sunday.

I love to hear the words “I am done”. Whether it is smoking, biting nails, eating whole cakes, cowering before an “ex”, the words, “I am done” are pure, musical joy to my ears.

Come to think of it, I am in the business of guiding people to be done with things, and I have had some interesting cases.

I received a short email from someone looking for a hypnosis CD for claustrophobia. I wrote back that while hypnosis CDs can be helpful for many things, curing a phobia, on one’s own, with a CD, is not recommended.

We chatted and yes, she remembered how it all started. She was locked in a closet.

With that information, I felt safe telling her that we could probably take care of it in one session.

We tapped (EFT) for about fifteen minutes on different aspects of her phobia and it soon became apparent that her claustrophobia might be a little trickier than I had originally thought.

Later, in hypnosis, when she told me she was being buried alive, I knew it was way more than I anticipated, but truly, I love this stuff.

She had years she did not consciously remember, and while I certainly I did not question the wisdom of her subconscious mind in keeping the memories buried, I knew I would need some serious cooperation to resolve the phobia.

I ask her Subconscious if it was OK to get rid of the phobia and got an affirmative. That was easy! The ensuing battle was not so easy. Just weeks before coming in, she had felt stuck in a shower and in desperation had torn the whole door off. The person, who installed it, had no idea how she could have managed to do such a thing.

I reasoned, thanked, pleaded, praised and argued for a long time with her subconscious mind. When she opened her eyes, she said, “I am done with it. It’s over”

I checked on her a few days later and she had easily entered the bank vault at her new job, and just wasn’t fearful.

A Hypnotherapist will often comment that the subconscious mind is very much like a child, and in this case, the child was very determined, but the baby is done, and the woman has her freedom back.

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